Saturday, October 03, 2009

Different styles of courting, are there?

Recent dating guides I (happen to :p) read has one red thread (benang merah), which is: men are simple. There are no such thing as mixed signs. If it's mixed (to our mind) then most likely it only exists in our mind. Men are either yes or no, and it should be easy to tell.

But is it really so?

I have personal experience when somebody said I am not his type (twice, as a matter of fact), as a respond to my friend's initiative to ask him about me -since they knew I had a crush on him-, but since a wrong sms I accidentally sent to him, he finally changed his mind (or simply just opened to the truth that actually he liked me). Btw, this guy is Indonesian.

And then now, my roommate shoo-ed me to go out and respond to this Japanese guy's constant-cordial invitation, out of the reason that he might be actually courting me. I am not interested in having relationship with him, it's not the point here, but I'm interested to see where this is leading.

One of my friend said those books (movies including: He's just not that into you, and recently seen: Ugly Truth), are all made in America. And so it explains only American men's behaviors. Well, who actually knows :D

5 comments:

  1. apparently, you r such an advanced theorist. however, u should add commitment as a driver for men to act. that's why men sometimes did something stupid or dangerous just to prove something unsignificant. and why men r reluctant to say yes at the first time. they employ probability as a tool measuring virtue.

    so, you don't really think men r simple, do you?

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  2. how about another theory...what you see is what you get. May be it is a good idea to stop seeing men behaviour as some codes you have to decipher. Think that men are honest and be honest yourself. If you act thing out I would not be surprised if you later get stuck with acting out men out there. Goodluck!

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  3. Anonymous 1 and 2 (are you the same person?) I appreciate you comment, thank you. But first of all, I am not proposing any theory, it was more of a literature review (result of me reading too much craps, maybe) hehe. Secondly, why do you assume that I would act thing out, even if I assume men do? Thanks for the advice to be honest, I feel like a real drama queen now :D

    Personally, I think human are unique, thus we cannot always make generalization.

    PS: This was just for fun, men are great, I like them :D

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  4. hi yogi... u surely read too much craps. follow ur intuition, plz don't observe men, date them. hehe... life is too short to think back what we're not doing in the past.

    smiles,

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  5. hihi thanks Bro. You're right, practice makes perfect, right :D How's everything down there?

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