The title doesn't mean I'm now against love, I will never be. I just suddenly think about the other side of being in love, being detached from love. Now, I believe everybody has the experience of this, you, me, my best friends... Well hello (tisha's tone, red), even Brad Pitt is breaking up with Jennifer Aniston, isn't he? or are they getting back together? anyway...
Although usually even before the judgement day (being too exaggerating!) we've been seeing the signs, and probably enduring the pain or the uncomfortable feelings, yet when it finally happens it may still strike you as a samourai (again, too dramatic...;p) . The first 5 hours, or 5 days... or 5 something.. is like the digestion stage. We try to absorb the fact, pick up the pieces that might left unnoticed, which just may explain why it is happening. We think and think as if we do it hard enough we may find the true answer, or the solution, or the way out, or anything...
And then probably some people go through the denial stage. If you were the one who made the decision, you may seek excuses that you didn't mean to hurt anybody, you were just being honest or you may also say he/she deserves better than you. And if you were the one who is affected you may say you were not even sure anyway or that he/she was not worth it, or you would find better one and such and such...
But eventually, I would say we grow stronger from those experiences. Just like Tisha said, in the end you would only remember the good things. That you were once in love, enjoy your life, and even when you see those sad moments it seems beautiful from a different angle. Then you realize that life is so rich and fascinating because it has the colors of all the subtle changes in your feelings, the happiness and also the sadness.
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Sort of Depression
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Waking up this morning I felt it coming. I have had multiple episodes of
this over and over, I feel like I need to start carefully examine it now. I
obse...
4 months ago
"But if in your fear you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure,
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Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears." -- excerpt from The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran
you've experienced many things in life & love, i bet you're getting stronger and stronger now, you know something, there is a time when we have to surrender to our destiny, a time that we don't need to know better or understand the reason behind everything,
ReplyDeletea friend of mine says that you will never be happier than you expect, to change your happiness, change your expectation.
one of your best friends
In life and love...it doesn't matter if you made the right choices or not. What are the standards of good choices anyway? The number of people you hurt? Or the number of days, months or even years you feel you are in deep shit? You don't know when your choice/decision is right until you see the consequences. In fact, sometimes, even 10 yrs after, you still would not know if that choice was a good one or not. So, what matters really is whether you have learned to face the consequences of all those bad choices you made.whether you have learned to float in the sea amidst the wild waves. And for the mean time that you are grieving, it is good to know you have good friends around you to hold your hands. It helps while you are still mustering your courage to face the consequences of your decisions. So when you are in-love or anti-love, never lose your friends.
ReplyDeleteI know who Leo for a Dragon is, but who is one of my best friends? O namae, onegaishimasu...
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